Are constant fights and bickering getting you down? Does relationship happiness feel like an increasingly distant memory? Before you give up on your marriage, give it a chance with marriage counseling and couples therapy in Colorado Springs that really works for you.
If you are wondering whether your marriage can be saved, Jan Robles is a marriage-friendly therapist who believes that often the answer is a resounding: Yes. You can save your marriage! Jan values marriage and life-long commitment and is dedicated to helping your marriage succeed.
The stresses of modern married life can put enormous strains on any couple. Between non-stop work cycles, 24/7 online availability, the pressures of meeting your financial needs and the stresses of raising children, even the most committed couples can slip apart.
Marriage counseling with Jan can help you build and regain intimacy and empathy. You will learn new ways to communicate and new tools to build your relationship and keep it strong. You can do a reboot on your marriage. Jan will help you work towards a healthier, happier, more fun relationship. Marriage counseling with Jan can help you build and regain intimacy and empathy. You will learn new ways to communicate and new tools to build your relationship and keep it strong. You can do a reboot on your marriage. Jan will help you work towards a healthier, happier, more fun relationship.
Jan will put tools in your toolbox to work through issues, including:
- Communication skills. We all hear and perceive differently.
- Learning how to do timeouts.
- Learning how important respect is for you and your partner.
- Discover your own strengths and weakness. How can you use your strengths to move forward? How can you convert a weakness to a strength? How will you know when you’re making progress?
No blaming, no scapegoats. A systems approach to marriage counseling
In marriage counseling with Jan, neither spouse is blamed for what’s going wrong in the relationship. Instead, Jan will help empower you and your spouse to change how you respond in order to get a better relationship.
Understanding how our actions impacts our spouse and our children enable rapid progress. Therapists call this a “systems approach.” By making us aware of how our actions affect each of us and affect our family, we can improve our relationships, strengthen our family and emerge stronger as a couple.
The no-blame systems approach is very effective in defusing power struggles and bypassing the impasses that often corrode relationships. In counseling with Jan, you and your spouse will focus on positive change rather than finding fault.
Marriage is a joining of two individuals. Though you love each other very much, each person brings to marriage their own ideals, expectations, values, and needs. Premarital counseling can help you to discuss the expectations and differences that you have with your future spouse so that you have a stronger foundation for marriage from the beginning.
You can benefit from premarital counseling
Premarital counseling/pre-engagement counseling is a great way to set your relationship up for success at the beginning of your shared journey. Through marriage therapy facilitated by Jan Robles, you can form a stronger, closer relationship that will enable you to start your married life with more ease.
Pre-engagement/premarital counseling can help you sharpen your communication skills, make sure you have the same expectations for marriage, and develop the conflict resolution skills that will help you to thrive and endure whatever life throws at you, together.
How pre-premarital counseling works
Raising or discussing important topics before marriage can reduce stress and prevent arguments later during your marriage. Jan Robles provides a comfortable and safe environment where you can be open with your partner and learn relationship tools that will help you overcome conflicts and communicate lovingly and effectively in the future.
Ask yourself: have I discussed these topics with my partner? Jan can facilitate a discussion that will bring up and resolve topics that are important to your relationship and marriage, including: finances, values and beliefs, communication, expressing affection and sex, your roles in your relationship or marriage, children and parenting, dealing with anger, how you make decisions, spending time together,and more.
You and your spouse have your own way of expressing love and receiving love. Sometimes, we lose the ability to transmit and receive on our spouse’s wavelength – with disastrous results for our relationship.
When you and your spouse are able to relearn how to communicate, your relationship can heal. You can add energy, empathy, intimacy, support and love back into your marriage.
Take a Communications Test
Do your conversations sound more like hostile debates or more like spirited discussions between friends and lovers?
Do you say about your spouse, “she just doesn’t get me”? Does your spouse say the same about you? Ask yourself ‘have I been open about my expectations, and discussed issues that could make or break us?’
Here are some other signs that the communications in your relationship need urgent care:
- When your spouse is speaking, you’re already preparing your rebuttal instead of listening
- Your partner says, “I feel…” and you say, “No, you don’t”
- You say, “I feel…” and your partner says, “No, you don’t”
- Often, you interrupt each other
If this seems familiar, you may need help. I can help you learn to communicate.
Learn to Communicate
Healthy communication can be learned and re-learned. You can put love and affection back in your marriage by improving your communicates.
- Become a good listener
- Learn how to be open to your spouse
- Learn how trust and respect can transform your communication
Choose marriage counseling that can save your marriage
Healthy relationships are the key to lifelong happiness. Put yourself first by putting your relationship first and choose marriage counseling in Colorado Springs that can save your relationship and allow you to achieve true joy. You can get in touch with Jan Robles by phone or by filling out the contact form.
Jan Robles provides marriage and relationship counseling online and in-person appointments in Colorado Springs, CO, serving the nearby areas of Castle Rock, Monument, and Woodland Park, as well as residents of the Air Force Academy, Fort Carson, Schriever Air Force Base, and Peterson Air Force Bases.